We’ve been waiting to see if our new bundle of joy would end up with colic like his brother. So far he doesn’t, and we are very grateful. But my husband is now in the habit of saying our new one is spoiled. Most of the time when he cries, which isn’t very often, he just wants to be held. I’m fine with this, but my husband says we are spoiling him. I keep telling him you can’t spoil a newborn, but he disagrees. So I decided to research it and see if you really can spoil them…

Under the age of six months experts say that you can’t spoil a newborn, as they can’t understand the cause and effect of actions. When they cry, it’s because they truly need something. They need to be fed, or changed, they are to hot or to cold, they might be tired and overstimulated or yes, they could just need to be held.

After the age of six months you can let your little one do more for themselves, such as self-soothe. They definitely need to be able to learn that trick, or your days and nights will be harder than they need to be.

So am I spoiling him by picking him up at 4 weeks? No. And no one should feel guilty for picking up their child at such a young age. I’m going to go pick him up now, in fact, just because I can!