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You Can Stay At Home

July 11th, 2008 by Mommie

This is a decision that every mother faces after having a child. I’ve been reading on a survey forum that I’m involved in that many mother’s just don’t see how they can stay home, there’s just no way…

I’m here to say that you can. Trust me, I was a definite career woman, Masters in my pocket, I’m pretty sure I would have been pulling in 6 digits a year by now. I had a plan, and it didn’t include staying home with the kids. But at about 5 or 6 months pregnant something changed and I wanted to try and stay home.

But how? How would we cut out over half our income? How would we live! I mean it seamed that we were on a fairly tight budget anyhow, there was no way. But I put my mind to it and systematically decreased our spending, our bills, everything I could. We paid off a car, traded our BMW in for a Ford, paid off our 52 inch TV, decreased our cable, our eating out, our spending in general.

Trust me, it IS POSSIBLE! We just had to keep it in our mind that how we were living had to change, and it did.

Now if you have to go back to the workforce, there are numerous sources for a mother. I’ve always had wonderful luck with recruiters and Monster.com. There are city specific sites, like Chicago jobs, so you can zone in on your area.

If any mom wants help on how to get to the point of staying at home, on how to decrease spending or budgeting, trust me, I would LOVE to help. Just go to the contact page and let me know what you need help with!

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4 Responses

Nessa writes:
July 11th, 2008 at 3:20 pm

Something shouldn’t be forgotten, there are genuine WAHM companies that pay you to do the same job you’d do in a brick and mortar job. I work from home and it enables me to spend my time with my kids as well as homeschool them. I set my own hours, I don’t work a project i don’t like, I do not o sales jobs, and i’m not limited in how much i can work. I earn a paycheck just like anyone else. I also have no commuting expenses, i don’t buy work clothes and i find a work best in PJ’s and slippers lol.
Joy writes:
July 11th, 2008 at 5:19 pm

I’m a stay at home Mom for 7years although it’s not my dream to be or I hate the fact before to be like this but I learned to accept it. Trying to be submissive as my man doesn’t like the idea of me working. I still have a plan to work maybe when kids all grown up as they’re still little.
The BoBo writes:
July 11th, 2008 at 10:47 pm

I commend you on your choice to stay at home with your children and found the means to do it. You are absolutely right. There is a way if you really want it. My wife was a single mom for 12 years before I met her. She really did not get to be the “mommy” to them as she was so busy just trying to provide for them. After we married, she continued to work until she got pregnant with our first child. She made a decision that she wanted to stay home and be a mommy this time around. So, we did the same thing. We cut our spending on discretionary items and put it towards paying off all the credit cards and paying down other debt. We traded in my Eclipse for a used Minivan (boy did that hurt!) and we kept her little Corolla that was paid off. By the time the baby came, we were set for her to stay home as we cut our debt almost in half and we learned that generic products are just as good as most brand names. In fact, what we learned was that most generics are actually produced by the brand name manufacturers. So – it is possible. My wife and kids are happy that she gets to be a full time mommy and so am I.

And..for the record…she works her butt off! When I get home, it’s all Daddy time and she gets to relax. I play with them, bathe them, then get the ready for bed. On the weekends, she takes time for herself to get out of the house and go where she wants for as long as she wants. Just as much as she likes being the mommy, I really like my time with the little ones myself. She never has to ask me to watch them…I’m all too happy to do so.

What I’m getting at, in addition to watching the finances to make it happen – it also requires both parents’ involvement for it to work.
Carol - writes:
July 13th, 2008 at 7:40 am

I made the choice to stay home. But I do understand those that don’t.

Our culture practically forbids us to stay home. We are fed the lie that we have to have the big house, big cars that burn big gas, big TV’s, big piles of electronics, big service agreements, big vacations, big designer clothing and accessories…for our infants. And that we simply MUST have those things. They are no longer options. According to our culture.

But those things come with big price tags.

Many mothers are very depressed because they do want to be at home with their children, but they also want all those things. If they choose one -either way- they mentally beat themselves up for not having the other.

The flip side is the lie that we can have it all.

Another reality is that, unless a mom is making oodles of money, she’s probably not increasing her household’s net worth significantly enough to justify leaving her kids with strangers all day. Her net income, after deductions, childcare and working expenses, is often much smaller than she thinks.

Oh, man. I visit for the first time and get off on this major rant. Next time, just stick a pacifier in my mouth!